Perhaps the best thing to do is to start small. Consider getting back into dating environments, but with friends. If you want to get yourself back on the roster, you need to be out there. But if you stick to hanging out with friends, the pressure will be off. You can also try to organize a group date so that you don’t feel as if you have to carry the full weight of conversation. It’s a great way to meet new people while remaining in the comforting zone of friendship.
Along the same lines, you can start attending parties with co-workers and friends. This allows you to meet new people more quickly and swiftly. Hitting the bar scene is also a great way to take the edge off after a long day of work and to make some chit chat with the locals.
Maybe you don’t want to meet random people though, and the thought is overwhelming. Try re-connecting with some hobbies, and try to meet like-minded people. You might want to join a gym to meet people who have similar athletic aspirations. You could start spending some more time at the local library if you like to read. A coffee shop is also a great place to strike up a conversation, based on the newspaper someone is reading or the book they have. Basically, anywhere that other people are is a good place to start.
At the end of the day, you need to realize that despite the fact that it didn’t work out with this one person, you’re still a desired human being. Daily positive mantras and taking care of your body can help you remember this, and they can go a long way toward boosting your self-esteem. Finally, re-assessing your priorities is a great way to jump back into the dating pool. You’ll put more stock into your wants and needs, which is incredibly important.
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