Bullying is one of the most common problems in any school. There are thousands of bullies and thousands of children being bullied daily. For some, the bullying eventually stops when adults step in to stop the bully. Unfortunately, some bullied children were not able to wait for the adults’ intervention and took their own lives just to escape the ordeal the bullies put them through.
As a parent, you’ll definitely feel lucky that your child is not being bullied in school. But how would you feel then if you find out that your child is the bully? What will you do?
Observe Your Child and Notify His Teachers
If you suspect that your child is being a bully, then you have to observe him. Watch how he treats his siblings, and watch how he treats other people as well. If he’s being extra mean at home and with the neighbors, then there’s a high likelihood that he’s also being mean in school. For this reason, you can set up an appointment with his teachers to talk about your child and his bullying tendencies. Your conversation with them will give you a good inkling of how he acts in school and if he’s taking his meanness out on some of his classmates as well.
Don’t Pretend Everything’s Okay
If your suspicions were confirmed and your child is indeed a bully, then don’t pretend that there’s nothing wrong with him. Most parents tend to ignore the problem, thinking that it’ll go away in time and that it’s just a passing phase. However, what most don’t realize is that the bully also needs help.
He may also be having issues at home that are affecting his relationships with other people. Your teenage child may be suffering from a mental disorder that’s making him act this way. Your child may be going through teenage problems like peer pressure. He, himself, is also being bullied by others so he’s taking it out on people he can intimidate. Whatever the reasons for his actions are, you have to stop his bullying.
The first step to addressing the issue is to have a heart-to-heart conversation with him. You have to ask him what his problems are. This way, you can help him look for resolutions to his problems and bullying tendencies.
If this doesn’t work, then you can send him to a therapist. The therapist can accurately pinpoint what makes him act this way and can help him understand the consequences of bullying. The therapist will also be able to help you deal with the situation.
The Consequences of Bullying
You have to stop your child from bullying others. Not doing anything to address and stop his bullying tendencies can result to dire circumstances like fights in school, detention, and even expulsion. If the bullying is so severe, he may have to face legal complaints filed by the parents of the children he’s bullying. This could potentially land him in jail if he’s old enough. If this happens, then you’ll have no other choice but to get him out of jail. You can post his bail or get a bail bondsman if you don’t have the money for it.
Bullying has terrible consequences not only to the bullied but to the bully as well.
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Jennifer Dallas is an article provider who writes for http://BailBondsDirect.com. She specializes in writing articles regarding crimes that can land you in jail and how to get out of it.